"L-O-V-E"

Well, today I was thinking twice. Now is abuot LOVE. If you love someone, what do you feel? Wanna be with them every time you can, want to know more about them?

The key in a relationship, beside TRUST EACH OTHER, is DO NOT BE SELFISH. That's what I think.

I think, the point of loving someone is not EVERYTHING IS FOR THEM. I don't think so. If your partner asked you to do something that against yourself, your habit, your daily attitude which you know exactly it is not good for you, will you do it? Even your partner say, "It's okay. It will be fine."
Will you do it?

The point of loving someone is not about you. It is about your partner, people you love and your partner love, and how you put God in your relationship.

If you love someone, TRY NOT TO BE SELFISH. Don't ever think like this, "The important one is me feel good, me like it. I don't care if my partner like it. It's me who happy first, then you."
Believe it or not, many couple think about it on their mind, unconsiously.

In a relationship, PUT GOD INSIDE IT. That's the basiccally thing. So, there are three people, you, God, and your partner.

Firstly, You should ask God before you choose your partner. A relationship is not just for today. It is for a period, the time where you will know each other more, find what you like or dislike from your partner's habits and attitudes, and chande yourself to be better if your partner doesn't agree with your habits and attitudes and you realized that is wrong too.

Secondly, if everything already happened, surrender all your relationship to God. Remember that He is your creator. He created you with a purpose. Let Him guide you in everything you do, surrender your life to Him, ask Him what He want do with your life, include your relationship. Then believe, He always give the best for you. But to reach the best, you need to have progress in your life.

Thirdly, whatever you want to do, either in your relationship or your life, think about people you love (which i believe they love you too) too. Is that, what you want do, give a good impact or not to them. I believe out there, many people love you. They don't want you dissolved. They want the best for you. Be careful with what you do, think about the result first. Is the final result from what you do, will give a good impact for you, people around you,or not. Is what you do make many people upset to you, or not.
This rule occur to your partner too. Think about your partner, people who love your partner. your future and your partner future.

Fourthly, look at your partner. If they have some bad habits, help them to change it. Even you should andry to them, and they angry to you too, if it is cause good impact, do it. But remember, don't ever sacrifice yourself. You should sacrifice, yes. But look, think about yourself too. If what will you do (the sacrifice thingy) dissolved yourself, don't do it. I believe your partner can think too. They have brain to think and they know how to use it. They are adult. They can make decision for themselves.
Both of you should grow up. You be better, then your partner too.

When you do the fourth part, I believe it will hurt you much. You see they angry to you, besides that, they don't realized that what you do it's all for their goods. Maybe they will say you are selfish or anything else, but actually you do it all is not for yourself. Here, you should be strong. Ask God for the strength. Don't let yourself give chance to your partner to back to their old habit, that you know it's not good for them.
Just remember this one, you want to help your partner to be better than before. You don't want they dissolved.

Here i remembered about my parents. Now I'm far from them. Now i should decide alone, which one is good or not for myself. I remembered when they were angry to me because I don't listen to them, then I was angry to them because I think they don't understand me, but now I realized, what they say to me in the past, IT IS ALL RIGHT.
Well, i propose to you all, which still life with your parents, LISTEN WHAT THEY SAY. They always want the best for you. No parents want to look their children dissolved. No one :)
Mom, Dad, thanks for everything that both of you has given to me. I don't want to make you upset. Now, I started to learn by myself. I started to decide everything alone. I miss both of you Mom, Dad. I love you. You are the best :)


Last but not least,
"Love is not thinking about yourself now, but about you and your partner in the future" ;)



Be blessed, Keep Loving~



Regards,
Putrii